Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work

Posted On: January 24, 2022

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Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work

A resolution is like a promise to us to improve our lives and to make the New Year a better one for ourselves and others. Wanting to make resolutions is a good thing.

Unfortunately, after a month or even earlier, the majority of us have abandoned our goals altogether.

Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work
1. You are trying to rush the results.
2. You don’t believe you can achieve your aspirational goals.
Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work
3. Your resolutions are a source of suffering instead of enjoyment.
4. You don’t have enough great reasons to accomplish your resolutions.
How to Make Resolutions Work
#1 Plan Ahead
To ensure success, you need to research the change you’re making and plan ahead so you have the resources available when you need them.
How to Make Resolutions Work
#2 Anticipate Problems
Anticipate problems at certain times of the day, with specific people or in special situations. Once you’ve identified the times that will probably be hard, find ways to cope with them.
To make your New Year’s Resolutions work, decide what you want to do this year, plan how to get it and go for it.


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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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