Vaginismus Testimonial: “I was in an unconsummated marriage for 8.5 years.”

Posted On: November 27, 2022

Vaginismus Testimonial I was in an unconsummated marriage for 8.5 years“My name is Shriya and I am 34 years old. I was in an unconsummated marriage for 8.5 years. Though my partner never pressurized or held me responsible for a sexless marriage it did have a negative impact in the long run ultimately leading to divorce. This shattered me as I started to feel lonely and depressed. I felt completely hopeless and out of options. I decided it was time I faced my fear and that I should seek help from therapist. This is when I across Martha’s website.

The video posted on the website “The Crying Project” detailed exactly everything that I was going through almost 1/3rd of my life. Without further delay I booked an appointment. I really had no hopes at that point of time, but I still went ahead with the meeting so I can share what I was going through as I had not shared about my condition with anyone so far. And today, I can say that meeting Martha was one of the best decisions I have ever made.

To me, she is a Godsend, so warm and affectionate and very easy to talk to. She listened to my story, gave me hope and assured that I can overcome this with some practice and relaxation. She walked me through the vaginal anatomy, a combo of techniques and some assignments for me to work on. After the 2nd day of meeting her, I achieved penetration with my finger. It was the first time something was inside me, It was very uncomfortable, I was scared, shaking, crying and happy all at the same time. I was so excited of this achievement that I wrote her an email and was surprised to see a reply from her at that late hour (almost 12am). Over a period of one month, with regular practice and a lot of relaxation, I had vaginal intercourse. I am still exploring myself and only lately (after 3 months) I have started to enjoy intercourse. And today when I think about all these years I wasted, I still cannot get my head around what was it exactly that I was scared of all these years. I highly recommend Martha’s counseling services!

Martha, I can’t Thank you for guiding me through this journey. You are much more than a counselor and a sexologist. You are doing a great job and I want your work to reach as many women out there that suffer in silence. Also thankful for all the other suggestions you had given me and today I feel more confident than I ever was ” – Shriya, received on 26 Nov 2022

This is video mentioned in the above testimonial which I released in 2013. In it, I was channeling the pain of people who have Vaginismus and cried in solidarity with them.

For more of my past testimonials working with clients with Vaginismus, click here.
* Do note that it is not more as not everybody is ready to share their story/ testimonial, and rightly so.

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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 12 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore. She is also a Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator from Star of Ishtar.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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