Breaking the Silence: How to Deal with a Partner Who Won’t Talk

Posted On: July 27, 2023

How to Deal with a Partner Who Won't Talk

Communication is essential to any successful relationship. When your partner stops communicating, it can be a difficult and confusing situation. It can be hard to know what to do when your partner won’t communicate, but there are some steps you can take to try to get the conversation back on track.

  1. Giving your partner space is a good idea, as it allows them to process their emotions and come to terms with whatever is causing them to stop communicating. However, it is important to make sure that you are not giving them too much space, as this can lead to further disconnection.
  2. Figuring out exactly what you want to say is also a good idea, as it can help you to be more clear and direct with your partner. This can help you to avoid misunderstandings and ensure that your message is heard.
  3. Picking your timing for a conversation well is also important, as it can help to ensure that your partner is in the right frame of mind and ready to talk. It is important to avoid forcing a conversation if your partner is not ready.
  4. Avoiding getting angry and making accusations is essential, as it can create an environment of defensiveness and make it difficult for your partner to open up. Instead, try to focus on understanding why your partner may be feeling the way they do.
  5. Trying not to bribe your partner into talking is also important, as this can create an unhealthy dynamic where one person feels like they have power over the other. Instead, focus on creating an environment of mutual respect and understanding.
  6. Keeping communication calm is also important, as it can help both parties to feel safe and secure in the conversation. This can help to create an environment where both parties feel comfortable expressing their feelings and opinions.
  7. Practicing using open body language can also be beneficial, as it can show your partner that you are open to listening and understanding them. This can help to create an atmosphere of trust and safety.
  8. Explaining how your partner’s lack of communication makes you feel is also important, as it can help them to understand why their behavior is having an impact on you. It is important to be honest and direct with your feelings without accusing or blaming them.
  9. Working together to find out why your partner finds communication hard can also be beneficial, as it can help both parties to understand each other better and work towards finding a solution.
  10. When your partner does speak, listening attentively is essential, as it shows that you are taking their feelings seriously and that you care about what they have to say.
  11. Finding out each other’s love language can also be helpful, as it can help both parties understand how the other expresses love and affection. This can help both parties feel more connected and secure in the relationship.
  12. Speaking to your partner’s friends and family about how they communicate may also be beneficial, as they may be able to provide insight into why your partner may be struggling with communication.
  13. Getting support from a professional may also be beneficial in certain situations, as they may be able to provide advice on how best to approach the situation and provide support for both parties involved.

If your partner won’t communicate, it’s important to take a step back and assess the situation. It’s possible that your partner is going through something difficult, and they may need some space to process their feelings. It’s also possible that they are feeling overwhelmed and need some time to sort out their thoughts. Whatever the case may be, it’s important to respect your partner’s wishes and give them the space they need. If you’re feeling frustrated, it may be helpful to talk to a friend or a counselor about the situation. Ultimately, communication is key for any relationship, so it’s important to be patient and understanding as you work through this issue with your partner.

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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Dr. Martha Tara Lee has been a passionate advocate for positive sexuality since 2007. With a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Masters in Counseling, she launched Eros Coaching in 2009 to help individuals and couples lead self-actualised and pleasurable lives. Her expertise includes working with couples who have unconsummated marriage, individuals with sexual inhibitions and discrepancies in sexual desire, men with erection and ejaculation concerns, and members of the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. Dr. Lee welcomes all sexual orientations and is available for online and face-to-face consultations. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.

She is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in the region (as of 2011) and is also an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor (as of 2018). She strives to provide fun, educational, and sex-positive events and is often cited in the media including Huffington PostNewsweek, South China Morning Post, and more. She is the appointed Resident Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society, Of, and Virtus Fertility Centre. She is the host of radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio. In recognition of her work, she was named one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013),  Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019).

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