Are You Fearlessly Living or Just Existing?

Are You Fearlessly Living or Just Existing?

Posted On: December 29, 2019

In present time, I would look at the beautiful orchids in my office and feel sad knowing they will die one day soon. Why do they have to die? Do they know they are going to die? If they knew, would they bother to bloom so brightly and as radiantly as they do? One might […]

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On Receiving Unsolicited Advice

On Receiving Unsolicited Advice

Posted On: December 27, 2019

Won’t it irritate you? This is what I am the subject of one or more of these scenarios regularly actually. This is why I avoid networking events. They exhaust me. If I did attend social events, I stay away from talking about work. Person: “You should do online programs!” Me: “I have six.” Person: “You […]

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On Death and Dying

On Death and Dying

Posted On: December 26, 2019

From the time I could speak, I remember asking my mom why I was born; where I was before I was born; and what I was born to do. I remember trying to ask her many times the meaning and purpose of life – without ever getting any answers that satisfied me. I didn’t know […]

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Books I Read in 2019

Books I Read in 2019

Posted On: December 23, 2019

I had set the goal of reading 150 books in 2013; 200 in 2014, 2015 and 2016; 100 in 2017 and 2018. This is how I fared 152 books in 2013, (Reached goal) 202 in 2014, (Reached goal) 168 in 2015, (Reached goal) 110 in 2016, (Didn’t reach goal) 80 in 2017, (Didn’t reach goal) […]

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Milestones for 2019

Milestones for 2019

Posted On: December 21, 2019

This is a list of events I hosted or conducted which counts as my achievements of the year – big and small. I first started doing these annual milestones as a way for me to keep track of my own progress, and only decided to keep doing and resharing them later. In 2019, I ran […]

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Guard Your Energy

Guard Your Energy

Posted On: December 21, 2019

Recalling from memory: Person to a group of us: “How is the market nowadays?” Group including myself: (can sense the negativity in his tone not words, and kept quiet) Same person: “Market has been quiet nowadays…” Me: (wanting to laugh inside as I could see it coming..) Same person: (Big sigh) Me: (noticing how everybody […]

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The Evolution of Volunteer Work

The Evolution of Volunteer Work

Posted On: December 13, 2019

There were many times in my life when I didn’t know what I wanted to do with myself – but I did know that helping people gave me the most joy. Volunteer dynamics/ evolution (in my opinion): Can do it – At first, I volunteered because I finally could (I was in a toxic relationship […]

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How to Get Over “Why me?” and “How come?”

How to Get Over “Why me?” and “How come?”

Posted On: December 7, 2019

Do you notice your “Why” or “How come” questions? Such as… Why this happening? Why is this happening again? Why is this happening to me? Why does this happen? Why does this happen to me? Why does this keep happening? Why don’t I see this happening to others? Why don’t I hear this happening to […]

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Book Review: The Awakened Woman by Dr. Tererai Trent

Book Review: The Awakened Woman by Dr. Tererai Trent

Posted On: December 2, 2019

It took me a while to finish reading this book because carrying it around for weeks doesn’t mean a book gets read – you actually need to read it, and I finally did. It took me a while because I really wanted to absorb not just the words, but the essence of who Dr Tererai […]

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I Inherited My Parents’ Heart

I Inherited My Parents’ Heart

Posted On: December 1, 2019

I didn’t grow up in a well-to-do family. I didn’t study in some elite school. Yet there is one thing I learned unconsciously from watching my parents: the “helper” spirit. My dad used to volunteer in the neighbourhood residents committee (RC). One of the things I remember doing alongside him regularly was going door-to-door collecting […]

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Responding to Somebody Grieving

Responding to Somebody Grieving

Posted On: November 21, 2019

A few months ago, I caught up with an acquaintance and this was how the conversation went: Me: “You know my mom passed away last year?” Her: “Yeah I know…” (with an empathetic look) “How are you?” Me: “I still miss her.” (start to tear up – one of those days I guess) Her: “You […]

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Why I Do What I Do: She’s been asked to watch people have sex

Why I Do What I Do: She’s been asked to watch people have sex

Posted On: November 21, 2019

Why I do what I do is a weekly series where AsiaOne showcases uncommon professions and what it takes to go down that career path. In their final episode, they feature me (Dr Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist and relationship counsellor). Having a desire at a young age to understand sex and how it […]

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