Poem: Imagine a Lover (for Men)

Posted On: April 22, 2010

Imagine a Lover …for those seeking a woman to love. Until you imagine something, it remains an impossibility. Once imagined, it becomes your experience. Imagine a lover who has walked through her past. A lover who is aware of her historic vulnerabilities. Who takes responsibility for her own stuff. Imagine a lover who has developed […]

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Poem: Imagine a Lover (for Women)

Posted On: April 21, 2010

Imagine a Lover …for those seeking a man to love. Until you imagine something, it remains an impossibility. Once imagined, it becomes your experience. Imagine a lover who accepts himself. A lover whose capacity to love you non-judgementally deepens as he is merciful toward himself. Imagine a lover who takes care of himself. A lover […]

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Poem: Imagine Lovers

Posted On: April 20, 2010

Imagine Lovers Until you imagine something, it remains an impossibility. Once imagined, it becomes your experience. Imagine lovers… Who smile in each other’s company. They say a strong and sensual YES to each other. Their YESes meet and fill their experience. Who tell the truth about what works and what doesn’t. They co-create solutions for […]

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The elephant in the bedroom: Talking about sex

Posted On: April 17, 2010

This article first appeared on The Online Citizen. For most people, sex is a sensitive and difficult subject to talk about. Click here to read the article I wrote for The Online Citizen. For most people, sex is a sensitive and difficult subject to talk about. I have come across a man who, after 15 […]

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Book Review: The Erotic Mind

Book Review: The Erotic Mind

Posted On: March 21, 2010

The Erotic Mind: Unlock the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin In this intriguing, insightful mix of analysis, anecdote and advice, San Francisco psychotherapist Morin developed an ‘erotic equation’ by drawing on the discussions of 351 respondents, straight and gay. This equation is: Attraction plus obstacles leads to excitement. He also […]

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Love at the Supermarket?

Posted On: February 14, 2010

Chinese singles looking for love this Valentine’s day is getting support from a Beijing supermarket. The “I’m Looking For You” market opened in November 2009, for the China’s unofficial “Singles Day” which is marked on the 11th of that month. Since then, the supermarket has attracted more than 1,000 clients and successfully matched more than […]

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China: Female Migrants Affected by Sexual Frustration too

Posted On: February 8, 2010

The problem of sexual frustration was not limited to men who took up jobs away from their spouses and families. ‘Many young women who have migrated from rural areas, where sex education is nonexistent, experience a culture shock in bustling cities. They may follow in their friends’ footsteps by adopting a more open attitude toward […]

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On Boundaries

Posted On: February 5, 2010

Guess which celebrity said this: “I don’t flirt. Even if you don’t actually touch someone or do anything to them, it’s disrespectful to your husband. I would never do that. I’m very devoted, and he’s the same.” Click here. On the same day, I came across this piece: public displays of affection is apparently acceptable […]

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Changes to Dating Game

Posted On: February 3, 2010

According to a Windows Live survey of over 700 Singaporeans, an overwhelming number (90.6%) said they would use Instant Messenger to ask someone out on a date, whilst some, albeit a much smaller number, (5.9%) would even propose online. Not only do many people feel it is acceptable to start a relationship online, a quarter […]

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Single Mind

Posted On: February 1, 2010

It’s the month of love, romance and eros. Have you signed up to received your daily lesson from Eros Coaching? You can do so here at Febulove, our online carnival for February. Don’t miss it! We hear it’s possible to trade love for treats. But why would we when giving it with gusto’s soooo amazing?

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Terms of Endearment

Posted On: January 16, 2010

How do you address your spouse? Or, for those dating, how do you address your romantic interest? How soon into a relationship do you start giving each other pet names or nicknames? An ex-boyfriend used to call me ‘Sexy’. It used to turn me all warm inside. I thought this was our special word and […]

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Forgive and Forget

Posted On: January 14, 2010

Forgive and forget. Let bygones be bygones. Turn the cheek. To err is human. We hear these phrases often. Our culture teaches us to not only ‘forgive and forget’, but also to ‘turn the other cheek’. Maybe we have done this so often and so much that we no longer know what we feel and […]

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