Posted On: September 26, 2011
I caught up with a girlfriend of mine, Vanessa Chow, some weeks ago. I lamented about all the things I was dissatisfied with in my life. After listening at length (and very patiently, as I probably went on and on), she remarked about how similar we were. She saw how hard I was trying […]
Posted On: September 20, 2011
This article is a continuation about some of the tribulations I face as Singapore’s first certified sexologist with a doctorate in human sexuality. You can read part 1 here. By way of introduction, my work involves working with individuals or couples with sexual concerns, as well as promoting positive messages about sex and sexuality in […]
Posted On: September 13, 2011
Answer the question below: Is a sexologist… a) Supposed to be sexy? b) Supposed to talk about sex only in the context of marriage? c) Supposed to make sure a married couple has lots of sex? d) Supposed to make sure a married couple who has lots of sex makes babies? e) All of the […]
Posted On: January 7, 2011
This article first appeared on The Online Citizen. As the Lion City’s only clinical sexologist with a doctorate in human sexuality, I have often been asked by journalists, friends, and complete strangers to share my thoughts about what I felt was my most bizarre/ interesting/ fulfilling case. I could become the next media darling or […]
Posted On: January 3, 2011
This article first appeared on Good Vibrations Magazine. A free clinic offering sex education and advice for youths in Shanghai, China, which operated in the city for five years, has closed because it was not attracting enough visitors. Operated under the Shanghai International Peace Maternal and Child Health Hospital, the clinic was set up to […]
Posted On: December 16, 2010
This article first appeared on The Online Citizen. I am a sexologist. Since I am the only one with this unique combination of qualification and training in Singapore, there exists a lot of confusion about what exactly a sexologist does within our little city/state. Not only that, I have my share of detractors who think I am a […]
Posted On: November 17, 2010
This article first appeared on The Online Citizen. I was browsing through the October issue of an expat magazine recently when I chanced upon an article entitled, “Well-being and Sex”. Intrigued, I read the piece, only to come upon the sexual terms: ‘sexual transmitted diseases’, ‘impotence’ and ‘frigidity’. The author is obviously not a sexologist […]
Posted On: September 2, 2010
This piece first appeared on The Online Citizen. I talked about the role of open- and closed-ended questions to get feedback from our partner after a sexual experience. You might begin asking for sexual feedback by using a few open-ended questions. If your partner is not forthcoming, or you wish to get clearer answers, you […]
Posted On: August 30, 2010
Are you an Askable Parent? Or a concerned caregiver? What does that mean? To be askable is to be perceived as approachable and open to questions by young people. They trust and respect what you have to say. Being askable about sexuality is something that most parents and caregivers want but that many find very […]
Posted On: August 24, 2010
This letter appeared at Straits Times forum on Mon 23 Aug. I REFER to Saturday’s special report, ‘Sex education: Too little, too late, and too vague?’ In recent weeks, there were media reports about more girls reaching puberty early – from the United States and Britain to Singapore. What this means is that our young […]
Posted On: August 9, 2010
According to my knowledge, these are the most common contraception methods in Singapore. What Are Abstinence and Outercourse? You may have heard people talk about abstinence in different ways. Some people think of abstinence as not having vaginal intercourse. They may enjoy other kinds of sex play that don’t lead to pregnancy. This is better […]
Posted On: June 15, 2010
This article first appeared on The Online Citizen. Sex is a learned act. That’s right: l-e-a-r-n-e-d. I remember contributing an article to an online portal a few months back. I had written the sentence: “For most people, sex is a learned act.” When the portal owner’s edits come back, she had written: “Don’t you mean, […]
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