The Meaning of Life

Posted On: October 11, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. The author of The Millionaire Messenger, Brendon Burchard, has written about how a near-fatal car accident changed his life. As he was at death’s doorway, three questions flashed through his mind: Did I live? Did I love? Did I even matter? If today was the last day of your […]

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On Being Weird

Posted On: October 3, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. I don’t want to be you anymore. It’s too hard. I know I am weird. I have been told that I am weird all my life. In fact, what I do for a living is considered weird, too (I’m not saying my work is actually weird) – I am […]

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Stop Trying So Hard

Stop Trying So Hard

Posted On: September 26, 2011

  I caught up with a girlfriend of mine, Vanessa Chow, some weeks ago. I lamented about all the things I was dissatisfied with in my life. After listening at length (and very patiently, as I probably went on and on), she remarked about how similar we were. She saw how hard I was trying […]

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The Tribulations of a Sexologist – Part 2 of 2

The Tribulations of a Sexologist – Part 2 of 2

Posted On: September 20, 2011

This article is a continuation about some of the tribulations I face as Singapore’s first certified sexologist with a doctorate in human sexuality. You can read part 1 here. By way of introduction, my work involves working with individuals or couples with sexual concerns, as well as promoting positive messages about sex and sexuality in […]

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Hot and bothered about Sex and Making Babies

Hot and bothered about Sex and Making Babies

Posted On: September 13, 2011

Answer the question below: Is a sexologist… a) Supposed to be sexy? b) Supposed to talk about sex only in the context of marriage? c) Supposed to make sure a married couple has lots of sex? d) Supposed to make sure a married couple who has lots of sex makes babies? e) All of the […]

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Nudity is not porn

Nudity is not porn

Posted On: September 12, 2011

Recently, I attended a two-day Internet Marketing course. Each attendee paid approximately S$2,000. Imagine my shock, then, when I arrived at the workshop venue to find that there were 94 persons attending (somebody counted). There were a total of five technical facilitators for 94 people, and since many course participants were non-techies, many were left […]

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Frequently Asked Questions about Vaginismus

Frequently Asked Questions about Vaginismus

Posted On: September 7, 2011

How does primary vaginismus differ from secondary vaginismus? Primary vaginismus is very common among women who tried to have sex for the first time. The involuntary tightening of their pelvic floor muscles are usually related to psychological issues such as fear of getting pregnant, assuming sex is a painful act, and performance anxiety. Secondary vaginismus […]

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Treatment Plans of Vaginismus

Treatment Plans of Vaginismus

Posted On: September 6, 2011

  Treatment Plans Unlike other sexual function disorders, Vaginismus is one of the many sexual function conditions in women that is highly treatable and can be successfully resolved with proper treatment. A treatment program is usually designed by a certified therapist based upon the problems and needs of a woman. The common methods of treatment […]

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A Closer Look: Vaginismus

A Closer Look: Vaginismus

Posted On: September 5, 2011

  Women who frequently experience vaginal discomfort during intercourse, such as pain and burning sensations, are probably suffering from the condition known as Vaginismus (pronounced vaj-uh-niz-muhs). Vaginismus is the result of involuntary tightening of the vaginal walls, making penetration during intercourse difficult or even impossible. This is usually manifested by the following symptoms: Pain due […]

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What is Vaginismus?

What is Vaginismus?

Posted On: September 4, 2011

You may have Vaginismus (pronounced vaj-uh-niz-muhs) if you are a woman who experiences… Pain due to tightening of the vagina during intercourse Painful sensation during insertion of the penis/ failure to achieve penile penetration due to pain Difficulty having a gynecological exam involving the vagina performed Sexual pain and discomforts after giving birth or undergoing […]

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The Tribulations of a Sexologist (Part 1 of 2)

The Tribulations of a Sexologist (Part 1 of 2)

Posted On: September 3, 2011

This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg, where I have a weekly column. When I started my practice, Eros Coaching, I was told unreservedly by many well-meaning people, often complete strangers, not to do so. Will I have enough business? Are Singaporeans going to come forward? “We are too shy!”, they exclaimed. “Why didn’t you stay […]

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Squeeze, Hold, Release Your Way to Sexual Health

Squeeze, Hold, Release Your Way to Sexual Health

Posted On: August 31, 2011

This article first appeared on the Good Therapy website. Have you heard of pelvic floor exercises? You may have learnt about them from your aerobics instructor. Or perhaps your urologist was the one who ordered you to squeeze your butt cheeks together? Maybe your gynae was the one who asked you to attempt to tighten […]

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