Posted On: November 14, 2019
Even before I could read, I would remember the sounds of the mornings: when my dad would open the door to the flat to collect his ordered daily The Straits Times, turn on the light in the living room, and proceed to read it. He doesn’t know it (maybe he will now) but this is […]
Posted On: November 5, 2019
I used to hate ‘small talk’ and know people who hate it too – preferring ‘big talk’ instead. Small talk is when you talk about something or anything of unimportant or uncontroversial matters. Yet even small talk is very telling of people. Depending on their answer, One can tell whether they are open, curious, happy, […]
Posted On: November 1, 2019
Every teacher has a teacher. I hired my first coach at 24 when I was going through my first divorce. She, however, violated coaching ethics by calling me on the phone (while we were still undergoing coaching) crying about how worried she was about paying her flat instalment, and screaming about one of her trainees […]
Posted On: October 29, 2019
I have been practising as a Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator since 2009 – long before it was fashionable, or sexy, or money-making to talk about sex and sexuality in Singapore, or for that matter in Asia as an Asian. Many people ask me why I do what I do. I am passionate about supporting […]
Posted On: October 27, 2019
This is my all-time favourite quote because these words seemed to transcend time and space, and spoke to me when I was contemplating divorce with my then husband…. It felt like she was speaking directly to me: “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in […]
Posted On: October 22, 2019
When I was going through my divorce, the last thing I wanted to do was go into circle with other women going through the same thing because I did not view what I was going through as same-same as others. I didn’t want to be surrounded by more pain, negativity, fears, drama, and stories. […]
Posted On: October 22, 2019
In August, I ran a free month-long online dance challenge Dance Yourself Free (for Women) – Online for women alongside co-hosts Hannah Lee and Danielle Ajanta. The idea came about because I knew that I worked well with accountability and wanted to commit to dancing at least once a day and share my dance (in the hopes it might serve […]
Posted On: October 17, 2019
Over the last few days, I realise these are some things I don’t do anymore: I don’t interrupt (I wait for the unfolding of people’s stories. I can tell if they are finished through their micro expressions, and don’t talk until they are completely done.) I ask one question at a time. I don’t think […]
Posted On: October 15, 2019
When I was pursuing my diploma in Mass Communications, I got a rare A in one of my school projects on Communications (which surprised even myself). In that module, we were taught to appreciate and understand the difference between verbal and non-verbal communication – and naturally we had the assignment of demonstrating our understanding between […]
Posted On: October 14, 2019
I used to hate (and probably still do to some extent) social gatherings because there was little else to do other than look pretty, sit quietly, and just smile and/ or eat/ drink. My mom would drag me to visit grandparents every weekend till they passed on. It would be loud, noisy, and relentless. I […]
Posted On: October 13, 2019
Thank you Luke Elijah Lim @lukelijah for installing “Love” in my office. It’s a reminder to my clients and me about why I do what I do and what this is really about: Returning to Love. The back story – V came before the other letters. L, O, E came from different shops. Luke and I […]
Posted On: October 13, 2019
There is the archetype of the Maiden, Mother, and Crone in Triple Goddess. More here In my own words Maiden – Prime of her youth Mother – Prime of her fertility Crone – Prime of her wisdom Behavioral Maiden – Young, fun, open, learning, beautiful (Shadow side: Wilful, childish, spoilt, manipulative) Mother – Mature, nurturing, […]
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