The fear of being a younger woman in modern times…

The fear of being a younger woman in modern times…

Posted On: February 9, 2021

Years ago, I started thinking of myself as the village elder because of the number of women (and couples) who come to me seeking advice on consummating their marriage, and who have primary vaginismus. I used to envy women younger than me because I didn’t have the internet or social media growing up, and I […]

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4-Part Interview with Sex Therapist Dr. Donna Oriowo

4-Part Interview with Sex Therapist Dr. Donna Oriowo

Posted On: February 7, 2021

This is a four-part interview I did with Sex Therapist Dr. Donna Oriowo. Her work and how she got into it On Why Black Lives Matter to Us All How to be an Anti Racist Healing Our Sexuality Interview with Sex Therapist Dr. Donna Oriowo – Self Introduction (1 of 4) Relationship Counselor & Clinical […]

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Resources for Partners of Sexual Abuse Survivors

Resources for Partners of Sexual Abuse Survivors

Posted On: November 19, 2018

1. A Layman’s Guide to Loving A Survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse The sad statistics show that about one in four girls and one in seven boys will be sexually abused (which includes molestation, assault and rape) by the time they’re 18 years old. Estimates suggest that 20-62% of the entire US population have been sexually […]

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#Sex #SexEd and #MeToo @ APTS

#Sex #SexEd and #MeToo @ APTS

Posted On: February 25, 2018

Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching spoke about #Sex #Sexed and #MeToo at the 137th Asia Professional Trainers, Singapore (APTS) Networking & Training Workshop, Asia Professional Trainers, Singapore on Thurs 22 Feb 2018. Do check out the presentation slides if interested. I would appreciate any opportunity to continue this […]

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Resources: Male Sexual Abuse Survivors

Resources: Male Sexual Abuse Survivors

Posted On: December 23, 2017

These are three books that I have come across as recommended resources for male sexual abuse survivors. I hope the will be useful for those who require support. 1. Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew For millions of men on the path to recovery, Victims No Longer […]

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Books I Read in 2017

Books I Read in 2017

Posted On: January 5, 2017

I had set the goal of reading 150 books in 2013, and 200 in 2014, 2015 and 2016. I ended up reading 152 books in 2013, 202 in 2014, 168 in 2015, and 110 in 2016. Though I fell short of reading 200 books in 2016, I intend to read at least 100 books (halved […]

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The Underlying Problem about Sexual Harassment is…

The Underlying Problem about Sexual Harassment is…

Posted On: April 5, 2016

Following my Facebook post about being sexually harassed, a male subscriber and supporter posted this below comment. I thought there is value in resharing (and have permission to reshare) it here. “The underlying problem is this person’s objectification of you and his apparently blindness or indifference to it. He’s treating you like I treat a […]

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Testimonial – On my blog post

Testimonial – On my blog post

Posted On: March 16, 2015

“Clear & well written. Good supportive reference links encouraging the reader to read/check the provided references. Lastly, it does provide one with a gentle question mark of: Why does it have to be ‘A Race Thing’ … gentle enough for in my opinion any type of person to ingest the topic without getting said “grumpy” […]

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Why Does It Have to Be “A Race Thing”?

Why Does It Have to Be “A Race Thing”?

Posted On: March 10, 2015

Growing up in multi-racial Singapore, where we have clearly defined racial groups and religious, the world was orderly, structured and made a whole lot of sense. Grown up now, I realise a lot of myths, misconceptions and stereotypes relating to gender, race and nationalities exist. Until a few years ago, I neither knew the term […]

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Unpublished forum letter: Sexual Violence When Out Dancing

Unpublished forum letter: Sexual Violence When Out Dancing

Posted On: August 4, 2014

I sent this forum letter to The Straits Times on 17 June 2014 and it has been remained unpublished as oh 4 Aug 2014 so I am reproducing it below. I am writing in response to the horrific story titled “Woman disfigured after rejecting man’s advances at Clarke Quay club” as reported on AsiaOne on […]

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