Posted On: October 4, 2019
What gives you joy? What makes you happy? What causes you to feel ecstatic (or as this Sexologist likes to ask… orgasmic)? For me, these are some of the things. When… The wind blows against my face/ hair I dangle my feet from a swing/ basket chair (like in this pic) I drink tea/ do […]
Posted On: October 2, 2019
It isn’t enough to just show up at work, and be paid for just what we do anymore. We can’t just show up physically and mentally, and park the rest of ourselves at home under the blanket. We are, and rightly so, expected to bring our best game, and show up fully and completely. We […]
Posted On: October 1, 2019
We tend to live in a black-and-white world – things are either right or wrong; good or bad; normal or abnormal. There isn’t much space for the shades in between. This need and fixation for polarity is especially so in areas where this is much ignorance (lack of knowledge/ education) around including in sexuality. As […]
Posted On: September 29, 2019
I cleared out my things from where I see clients at International Building today. With each move, there’s a mix of bitter-sweet feelings: letting go of the now-familiar, gratitude for what has been, and excitement for what is to come. It is important to feel it all in order to move on more fully. I […]
Posted On: September 26, 2019
I studied mass communication (the different ways we communicate with the masses). In my journalism course, it was drummed into us not to say in 10 words what we can in one. Or in other words, the K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple, Stupid) concept. This inevitably became an ethos I adopted for life. People tried to […]
Posted On: September 25, 2019
There is a fine line between of sharing experiences and advice giving. One is relating what happened to you. The other is telling me what you think will help. Most of us do the second because we have had lots of people give us unsolicited advice through our lives telling us “It’s for your own […]
Posted On: September 24, 2019
My past naysayers: “Forget about Singapore. Singaporeans don’t deserve you.” (on hearing what I do for a living). “I don’t need your help. I have three children.” (guy from networking event) My on-off lover of 3 years: “Deep down, I cannot accept what you do for a living.” (on why he won’t want a future […]
Posted On: September 22, 2019
Alongside my giving up how my peers thought of me as a teenager (due to bullying), I also gave up on obsessing about how I did in tests and exams the moment they were over in school. Remember those classmates you had who would discuss test questions and the “right” answers the moment the test […]
Posted On: September 18, 2019
I wrote about this before and I wish I had the foresight to take more photos of me at my “ugliest” when I was 11. I had geeky glasses, baby fat, cystic acne, poodle hair, and was called the ugliest girl in school… and I was. When I was in primary six, the class bully […]
Posted On: September 9, 2019
We tend to live in a black-and-white world – things are either right or wrong; good or bad; normal or abnormal. There isn’t much space for the shades in between. This need and fixation for polarity is especially so in areas where this is much ignorance (lack of knowledge/ education) around including in sexuality. As […]
Posted On: September 8, 2019
For too long we have been told that we need to study hard, and work hard so that we can be earned enough to survive, succeed and gain respect. What if we push ourselves very hard and we still don’t see the results for reasons beyond ourselves e.g. seasonal, market forces, colleagues, sales cycle etc? […]
Posted On: September 1, 2019
I used to spend one hour a day catching up on emails which mainly involved going through the publicity emails of my colleagues. By the time I am done, I felt so overwhelmed and defeated because if they are all doing such excellent work, then how do I even begin? How can I possibly begin […]
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