Posted On: March 1, 2020
I am thinking about why some women embrace their scars from a mastectomy (removal of the whole breast) and others hate theirs. For those who hate their scars – It is a reminder of cancer, surgery, the fragility of life; the loss of what was and what was there. It may all come together for […]
Posted On: February 27, 2020
Based on bestseller The Five Love Languages, I think Asians parents should do more of the below: Hug us more; Tell us how much they love us, how proud they are of us and in non-academic ways; Buy us unique presents that are just for us only (not a future handme down to our younger […]
Posted On: January 2, 2020
Many years ago, a client who overcame Vaginismus (inability to have vaginal penetration) came back with her husband to thank me for my work with them and complete our last session. She said this and I would never forgot it: Her: “Martha.. it wasn’t what you taught us that mattered… Honestly, we could have learned […]
Posted On: December 29, 2019
In present time, I would look at the beautiful orchids in my office and feel sad knowing they will die one day soon. Why do they have to die? Do they know they are going to die? If they knew, would they bother to bloom so brightly and as radiantly as they do? One might […]
Posted On: December 23, 2019
I had set the goal of reading 150 books in 2013; 200 in 2014, 2015 and 2016; 100 in 2017 and 2018. This is how I fared 152 books in 2013, (Reached goal) 202 in 2014, (Reached goal) 168 in 2015, (Reached goal) 110 in 2016, (Didn’t reach goal) 80 in 2017, (Didn’t reach goal) […]
Posted On: December 21, 2019
This is a list of events I hosted or conducted which counts as my achievements of the year – big and small. I first started doing these annual milestones as a way for me to keep track of my own progress, and only decided to keep doing and resharing them later. In 2019, I ran […]
Posted On: November 24, 2019
Today, somebody complimented me on my eyes. It reminded me of my mom who repeatedly told me that I have almond-shaped eyes, and a melon-shaped face whenever I asked her anything about my looks. It wasn’t never expressed as a compliment, but as a fact. Younger me: “Mom, be honest with me… am I beautiful?” […]
Posted On: November 21, 2019
Why I do what I do is a weekly series where AsiaOne showcases uncommon professions and what it takes to go down that career path. In their final episode, they feature me (Dr Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist and relationship counsellor). Having a desire at a young age to understand sex and how it […]
Posted On: October 29, 2019
I have been practising as a Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator since 2009 – long before it was fashionable, or sexy, or money-making to talk about sex and sexuality in Singapore, or for that matter in Asia as an Asian. Many people ask me why I do what I do. I am passionate about supporting […]
Posted On: October 22, 2019
When I was going through my divorce, the last thing I wanted to do was go into circle with other women going through the same thing because I did not view what I was going through as same-same as others. I didn’t want to be surrounded by more pain, negativity, fears, drama, and stories. […]
Posted On: October 13, 2019
There is the archetype of the Maiden, Mother, and Crone in Triple Goddess. More here In my own words Maiden – Prime of her youth Mother – Prime of her fertility Crone – Prime of her wisdom Behavioral Maiden – Young, fun, open, learning, beautiful (Shadow side: Wilful, childish, spoilt, manipulative) Mother – Mature, nurturing, […]
Posted On: October 10, 2019
“Do you know what the word ’empowered’ means?” I used to volunteer in the only women advocacy group in Singapore, and this question was one of the first questions one of the ex-Presidents and my one-time mentor asked me. I didn’t know. I felt I should have. I certainly heard it many times. So cool […]
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