Become a Patron!This is a directory of practitioners who underwent training on supporting clients to overcome Vaginismus by Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Dr Lee is an AASECT certified sexuality educator and AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor. In practice since 2009, she has worked with thousands of people with Vaginismus or unconsummated relationships, and successfully supported many to overcome their conditions. This is a list of practitioners she personally trained and highly recommends.
For more about Vaginismus, click here.
1. Shannon Schultz (She/ They)
Location: Big Island Hawaii
As a sexologist/ sex educator, I am dedicated to raising awareness and providing support for individuals experiencing vaginismus. I believe in promoting education about this condition, addressing its physical, emotional, and psychological aspects. I advocate for individualized treatment plans that encompass pelvic floor exercises, counseling, mindfulness techniques, and medical interventions. My goal is to empower those affected by vaginismus by equipping them with the necessary tools, resources, and support networks to overcome this condition and reclaim their sexual well-being.
How you work:
- Talk therapy
- Hands on
- Zoom
- In-person
Description of your services: I am a hands-on hands-in therapist
Language: English
Website: Shannonschultzsomatics.com Pacific Center of Somatic Sexology
Email Address: Shannonschultzsomatics@gmail.com
Best way to contact you: Through my website
2. Stella Topaz (She/ Her)
Location: Sydney and Port Kembla, NSW
The experience of pain with sex, including vaginismus, can be overwhelming, and it might feel like your body is letting you down. It can be helpful to notice the relationship you currently have with your body and with sex, and to identify what you want and hope for. With your self-knowledge and intention setting, and my skills as a sexological bodyworker and erotic coach, together we can design a plan. This might include information and education, mapping out support networks, and planning a range of practical activities you can do by yourself, and/or with a partner, and/or in session with me. A key part of this work can be slowing down; finding and honouring your body’s pace, in a process of affirming sexual and bodily wellbeing.
How you work: Zoom or In-person, and for in-person, I offer hands-on
Description of your services:
- Sexological Bodywork
- Scar Remediation
- Erotic Education
- Wheel of Consent®
Language: English
Website: stellatopaz.com
Email Address: stella@stellatopaz.com
Social Media:
Facebook: @abundantbody
Insta: @abundant_body
Best way to contact you: Email or via Facebook / Insta messages
3. Georgia Grace (She/ Her)
Location: Sydney
In session you can expect an integration of talk-based approaches, traditional eastern practices such as embodiment, meditation and mindfulness, with the pioneering insights of neuroscience and somatic learning theory. You will have the opportunity to discuss, share, process, learn and feel as we work with a range of modalities, tools and frameworks.
These sessions are co-created and client led, you have the time and space to explore, heal, get curious and discover. I’m a big believer in learning by doing – at the end of each session I offer options for take home practices to implement everything we’ve worked through in session.
All people are welcome and respected, sessions are LGBTQIA+ inclusive and safe.
- Sexual desire: desire discrepancy (aka mismatched libido), changes in desire, sexual frequency concerns
- Individual inquiries: sexual confidence, dating confidence, sexual stress or anxiety, feeling more present during sex, orgasm concerns, anatomy & pleasure, eroticism & sexuality
- Relationship dynamics: Communication skills, Non Monogamy, building trust, creating safety, learning about each others needs, having better sex, exploring new things, boundaries & consent, expressing & voicing desires, relationship choices and dynamics
- Sexual Function: premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, pre-orgasmia, difficulties with orgasm & climax, performance anxiety
- Painful sex: Vaginismus, general pain and discomfort, fear of pain leading to anxiety around sex
- Trauma: a body-mind and somatic approach to working with trauma
Can’t figure out whether your concern falls into these areas? Get in touch and I’ll point you in the right direction
How you work: Not hands on / Talk therapy / Zoom / In-person
Description of your services: Sex therapy and Embodied counselling
Languages you speak: English
Website: www.georgiagrace.co
Email Address: hello@georgiagrace.co
Social Media handle: @gspot._
Best way to contact you: Email
4. Susan Stark (She/ Her)
Location: Brisbane
As a counsellor and bodyworker, working for the past three decades in the fields of trauma and sex, I am passionately committed to supporting people reclaim choice and healing through pleasure. My approach is gentle and focused on giving people practical tools to reshape their relationship with their bodies and sex. My intention is to meet people wherever they find themselves in their experience of vaginismus, and step by step together gently address obstacles and build confidence and choice through body awareness, information and skill building practice. I have a special interest and long-term commitment to working with survivors of sexual trauma and boundary violation. It is my absolute joy to walk alongside and resource this valuable journey of re-membering the body and healing sex.
How you work:
- Talk therapy
- Hands on
- Zoom
- In-person
Description of your services: I offer individual and couple sessions as well as workshops, groups and festivals.
Languages you speak: English
Website: www.susanstark.com.au
Email Address: susan@susanstark.com.au
Social media links: https://www.facebook.com/susan.stark.714
Best way to contact you: Email
5. Yedidya Zion (He/ Him)
Location: Israel
As a Somatic Sex Educator, I believe in our ability to change. I believe in Our ability to Harness what is experienced as discomfort and pain and transform them into their complementary counter parts – Ease, Pleasure and Joy.
I am dedicated to raising awareness and providing support for individuals experiencing vaginismus. I believe in promoting education about this condition, addressing its physical, emotional, and psychological aspects. I advocate for individualized treatment plans that encompass pelvic floor exercises, counseling, mindfulness techniques, and medical interventions.
My goal is to empower those affected by vaginismus by equipping them with the necessary tools, resources, and support networks to overcome this condition and reclaim their sexual well-being. התשובה שלך
How you work: Zoom
Description of your services: Inviting you to meet by Zoom to create a personalized plan
Languages you speak: English and Hebrew
Email Address: yedidyabzion@gmail.com
Best way to contact you: Email
6. Lillie Brown (She/Her)
Location: NSW, Australia. I welcome clients via Telehealth from across the globe.
Maybe it was Catholic school or maybe it was Friday night sleepovers watching Girls of the Playboy Mansion, but I’ve always been fascinated by all things sex and pleasure—why we have it, how we have it, and what we can do to have more of it.
In session, I work with anything and everything in the realm of sex, relationships, and intimacy. Experiencing unwanted pain during sex can be distressing and many clients I speak to feel broken or like their body has betrayed them. I am particularly passionate about supporting individuals and couples experiencing painful sex, including vaginismus, to heal and repair their relationship with their body. With the right support, tools, and resources it is possible to move from pain and fear to a place of pleasure, ease, and vitality.
Beginning with embodiment practices to get you out of your head and into your body, oriented to our shared space—my approach is somatic and practice-based, which means that you learn by doing. To help you integrate the learnings from each session, you’ll receive a Pleasure Prescription—a curation of home practices and resources to explore outside of our time together. Sessions are 100% led by you and your needs, which means we move at your own pace and you have complete agency over what we explore in session—your body is our guide.
How you work: I combine talk-based and somatic approaches via Telehealth. All sessions are hands-off, clothes on.
Description of your services: Sex therapy, Sex education and Embodied counselling
Languages you speak: English
Website: www.lilliebrown.com
Email Address: howdy@lilliebrown.com
Social Media Links: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithlillie/
Best way to contact you: Email
7. Kai Silver (He/ They)
Location: Melbourne, Australia
I offer a safe environment to explore and experience, to work on issues and to take you on a journey to your inner potential and show you how to unlock more pleasure to create the life you deserve.
I bring a multitude of approaches to this domain – drawn from my lived experience, knowledge of sacred sexuality, traditional Swedish massage, and understanding of embodied counselling and somatic regulation. My formal experience includes how to work with Vaginismus, Swedish massage, studies in Sexological Bodywork, professional disabilities awareness training as well trained as being trained as a Master and Dom to embrace and work with BDSM and kink in a safe, risk aware and consensual way to explore all aspects of the body and mind.
We meet where you are presently in your journey with your body and desires, and steer a course which will be tailored to you and your own needs. I welcome everyone, all gender expressions (LGBTQIA+ friendly), multiples, and disabilities.
How you work: Hands on, Video chat, In-Person
Description of your services: I offer the whole range from Companion and Escort to Hands on Sexological Bodywork to Domination (BDSM and Kink) to individuals and couples.
Languages you speak: English and Swedish
Website: www.kaisilver.com.au
Email Address: contact@kaisilver.com.au
Social Media Links: https://www.instagram.com/kaisilveraustralia/ and https://twitter.com/KaiSilverAus/
Best way to contact you: E-mail, SMS and WhatsApp
8. Cyd Crossman
Location:Byron Bay
Vaginismus is a psychological/physical condition that can also be worked on from a relational perspective; your body holds the score, your sense of self began in utero, and all of your life experiences have informed your sense of self, body, mind, and brain.
Our sexual health is of great importance to our sense of wellbeing. As a Somatic & Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist specialising in sexuality, I offer a confidential and safe space where we can gently get to know all aspects of you and your sexuality. I work as a talk therapist, and I work longer-term with patients, 1-2 years and beyond. Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy is interactive and humanistic and incorporates linguistics, self-psychology, intersubjectivity theory, trauma theory, attachment theory, contemporary neuroscience, and memory systems theory. It is always evolving as our relationship evolves in the therapeutic space, helping you create lasting change and a much more fulfilling way of living.
How you work: Talk therapy
Description of your services: Somatic and Psychoanalytical Psychotherapy
Languages you speak: English
Website: www.cydcrossman.com
Email Address: cydcrossman@gmail.com
Best way to contact you: E-mail
9. Sharon Teo (She / Her)
Location: Singapore
Sex is a taboo topic in our Asian conservative society. Many who are experiencing difficulties with their sexual health may find it embarrassing and tough to talk to someone about it.
In Singapore, cases related to vaginismus are increasing and could also be one of the contributing reasons for declining birth rate. A local study conducted by KK Women’s and Children’s hospital (KKH) reflected a result of 58.6% of Asian women in Singapore are at risk of female sexual dysfunction. Psychological distress and traumatic experiences are common triggers to hormonal imbalance, interfering with ovulation thus leading to delayed pregnancy. (CNA, 2021)
Seeing a Professional provides holistic and non-judgemental support to better understand struggles. As a sexual health educator and counsellor, my aim is to provide a safe space for clients to explore, learn and embrace their sexuality with confidence.
How you work:
- Talk therapy via Zoom or In-person
- Psychoeducation
- No hands-on
- Clothes on
Description of your services: Using a combination of psychological theories and counselling techniques through psychoeducation and talk therapy. Every client will be able to construct their customised counselling goals and plans to best suit their needs and accomplish holistic sexual and overall well-being.
Languages you speak: English and limited Mandarin
Website: www.eroscoaching.com
Email Address: sharon@eroscoaching.com
Social media links: Nil
Best way to contact you: Email and Website
10. Dr. Liz Ray (She/ Her)
Location: Portugal
Liz is a Sexological Bodyworker and Relational Coach based in Lisbon, offering both in-person and online sessions to clients around the world.
Whether someone is experiencing primary vaginismus (where penetration has always been painful) or secondary vaginismus (where penetration has become painful over time), she understands how deeply this can affect one’s life.
She provides compassionate, pleasure-based guidance rather than pressure-based approaches. Her sessions include essential sex education, internal sensory development, and relational support for couples. With each client, she co-creates a personalized plan that is not only transformative—but also entirely achievable.
Description of your services: In-person Sexological Bodywork, online Coaching Sessions
How you work: Somatic Sexologist
Website: https://body-as-home.com
Email Address: eeeray22@gmail.com
Social media links:
Instagram: body_as_home
Whatsapp: 351 913 403 045
Best way to contact you: Email and Website
11. Sheena Lawless
Location: County Westmeath, Ireland
She is a Holistic Integrative Therapist and Coach with expertise in Sex Therapy, Individual Counselling/Psychotherapy, and Couples Therapy.
Her therapeutic practice is sex-positive, GSRD-affirming (Gender, Sexuality, and Relationship Diverse—including LGBTQ+), neurodivergent-aware, and both trauma- and shame-informed. She offers a space that is free from personal bias, judgment, religious dogma, and imposed societal norms—a space where safety is not only created but nurtured.
Her goal is to support clients in discovering or restoring their optimal mental, physical, spiritual, and sexual well-being.
How you work: Talk therapy
Languages you speak: English
Website: www.sheenlawless.com
Email Address: sheenalawless@yahoo.co.uk
12. Kian de la Cour
Location: Norwich, England, United Kingdom
Position statement around Vaginismus:
Kian is a Certified Wheel of Consent® Workshop Facilitator, Somatic Sex Educator and structural integration bodyworker. He is passionate about sharing the joys and trials of greater embodiment with the world.
The dream that guides his work is creating a world that cherishes erotic embodiment as a guiding principle. He sees this work is vital to counteract the cultural tendencies toward performative sex and to connect with our genuine curiosity and unique passions.
Kian is CEO of the School of Somatic Sexology and Chair of the Association of Somatic and Integrative Sexologists (ASIS).
Service: Certified Somatic Sex Educator & Wheel of Consent Facilitator
Languages you speak: English
Website:
https://www.somaticsexology.school
Email Address: kian@seaschoolofembodiment.com
Social Media: https://linktr.ee/kiandelacour
13. Krish Phua (He/ Him/ His)
Location: Zurich, Switzerland
Position statement around Vaginismus:
As a Certified Sexologist, Board-Certified Diplomate, Senior Counsellor, and Intimacy & Sexual Wellness Therapist, he is deeply committed to supporting individuals and couples navigating the challenges of vaginismus. He understands that vaginismus is a complex condition, often rooted in a combination of physical, psychological, relational, and cultural factors.
He believes that overcoming vaginismus requires a compassionate, trauma-informed, and holistic approach. His work integrates education on pelvic floor health, guided relaxation and mindfulness practices, cognitive reframing, and gradual exposure techniques to reduce fear and anxiety around penetration. He also incorporates couple-based communication strategies to enhance emotional safety and intimacy within relationships.
Importantly, he advocates for culturally sensitive care that respects each individual’s beliefs, experiences, and readiness to heal. He aims to create a safe, non-judgmental space where clients can explore their fears, address shame, and reconnect with their bodies and partners with confidence and hope. His goal is to empower those experiencing vaginismus to reclaim agency over their sexuality, foster deeper self-compassion, and build fulfilling, pleasurable intimate lives.
Service: Intimacy, Sexuality and Relationships
How you work: Zoom
Languages you speak: English, Mandarin and Cantonese
Website: https://www.underneaththemoon.com
Email Address: krish@eroscoaching.com.sg
Social Media Link:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/underneath_themoon/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/underneaththemooncom
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/underneaththemoon/?vi
14. Jassy Rennie (She/ Her)
Location: Melbourne, Australia
Position statement around Vaginismus:
If penetration feels impossible, like your body’s shutting down or saying no even when your brain is trying to say yes, you might be dealing with vaginismus.
It’s more common than people think, and it’s rarely spoken about properly. This is for anyone who’s felt like they’re doing something wrong, or that their body is betraying them. You’re not broken. You’re not too far gone. You just haven’t been given the right kind of support.
This 1:1 program is here to help you reconnect with your body in a way that’s safe, slow, and actually grounded in pleasure. We’ll focus on understanding vaginismus, reducing fear, building safety, and supporting you if and when you want to use dilators. No pressure. No timelines. Just real tools and space to feel like yourself again. If you’ve tried clinical approaches that left you overwhelmed or missed the emotional side of it completely, you’re in the right place.
Service:
Jassy (She/Her) is the founder of Second Base—an online sex therapy clinic and education platform that exists to make conversations about sex, pleasure, and intimacy way more accessible, inclusive, and actually useful.
She is a certified Somatic Focused Sexologist with a background in mentoring, somatics, and yoga—and she has spent the last eight years helping people feel more at home in their bodies, more connected in their relationships, and more confident in their sex lives.
These days, she specialises in supporting folks with vaginismus and painful penetration. It’s work that’s close to my heart—because so many people feel stuck, broken, or alone when sex feels painful or impossible. She has completed professional training specifically in vaginismus support, and she offers a 1:1 program that’s practical, pleasure-based, and nervous-system-aware.
She has been mentored by one of Melbourne’s leading Clinical Sexologists and completed an internship with POSMO, a well-loved sexual wellness brand. She holds qualifications through the Australian Institute of Somatic Sexology (AISS), is a member of the Somatic Sexology Association of Australasia, and is currently completing her Bachelor in Counselling and Psychotherapy.
Since founding Second Base, she has supported over 100 clients and couples with challenges ranging from low desire and sexual shame to communication blocks. Her work has been featured in Body + Soul magazine. Outside of work, she can usually be found surfing, sipping oat capps, or diving into feminist and fantasy reads.
She values curiosity, courage, and connection—and believes that pleasure is our birthright.
How you work: Zoom
Languages you speak: English
Website: https://msha.ke/second__base
Email Address: Admin@secondbase.online
Social Media Link: https://www.instagram.com/second__base_
15. Emily King (She/Her)
Location: Edinburgh
Position statement around Vaginismus:
As a somatic sexologist, she believes that the body is not a problem to be fixed but rather the key to work with. She advocates for pleasure-focused approaches to support those experiencing vaginismus and aims to empower people to become the experts of their own bodies and experiences.
Service:
Emily King is a somatic sexologist and Holistic Pelvic Care™ practitioner who specialises in the needs of women and couples.
With a background in gender based violence where she worked as an advocate for victims of sexual exploitation, her work offers a blend of grounded, trauma-informed support and pleasure-based sexuality education. She has supported 100s of people reorient from fear and anxiety around sex to connection and joy.
How you work:
In-person and online sessions are available. She works with Somatic Sexology and Holistic Pelvic Care, offering a blend of talk-based sessions and hands-on work.
Languages you speak: English
Website: www.emilykingsextherapist.org
Email Address: hello@emilykingsextherapist.org
Social Media Link:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilykingtherapy/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/horny4change
Compiled by Martha Tara Lee
Dr. Martha Tara Lee has been a passionate advocate for positive sexuality since 2007. With a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Masters in Counseling, she launched Eros Coaching in 2009 to help individuals and couples lead self-actualised and pleasurable lives. Her expertise includes working with couples who have unconsummated marriage, individuals with sexual inhibitions and discrepancies in sexual desire, men with erection and ejaculation concerns, and members of the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. Dr. Lee welcomes all sexual orientations and is available for online and face-to-face consultations. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.
She is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in the region (as of 2011) and is also an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor (as of 2018). She strives to provide fun, educational, and sex-positive events and is often cited in the media including Huffington Post, Newsweek, South China Morning Post, and more. She is the appointed Resident Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society, Of Noah.sg, OfZoey.sg, and Virtus Fertility Centre. She is the host of radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio. In recognition of her work, she was named one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013), Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019).
You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
