Become a Patron!Partners’ Role in Healing Vaginismus. I’ve found that understanding what is Vaginismus and what to do in supporting their partners goes a long way towards more understanding and overcoming it more quickly and effectively. From information, knowledge, practice, to confidence, it’s possible!
Partners’ Role in Healing Vaginismus
- Understanding, Not Pressuring: Pushing for penetration too soon can increase anxiety and prolong vaginismus. Instead, focus on intimacy beyond penetration—sensual touch, communication, and connection.
2. Open & Judgment-Free Communication: Ask: “How can I support you?” instead of “When will we have sex?”. Avoid blame—vaginismus is not your partner’s fault.
3. Participating in Treatment: Learning comfort techniques together. Attending sessions with a specialist to understand the process.
Fact: Research shows that partners who are involved in treatment improve outcomes significantly
Book a session with me or my team to support you through your healing journey.
Some testimonials are here.
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Dr. Martha Tara Lee has been a passionate advocate for positive sexuality since 2007. With a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Master’s in Counseling, she founded Eros Coaching in 2009 to help individuals and couples lead self-actualized and pleasurable lives. Her expertise includes working with couples in unconsummated marriages, individuals with sexual inhibitions or desire discrepancies, men facing erection and ejaculation concerns, and members of the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. She welcomes people of all sexual orientations and offers both online and in-person consultations in English and Mandarin.
Dr. Lee is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in the region since 2011, and became an AASECT-certified sexuality educator supervisor in 2018. Her fun, educational, and sex-positive approach has been featured in international media including Huffington Post, Newsweek, and South China Morning Post. She currently serves as Resident Sexologist for the Singapore Cancer Society, Of Noah.sg, OfZoey.sg, and Sincere Healthcare Group., and is the host of the podcast Eros Matters.
An accomplished author, Dr. Lee has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013), Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019). Her contributions have been recognized with numerous honors, including Her World’s Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40 (2010), CozyCot’s Top 100 Inspiring Women (2011), Global Woman of Influence (2024), the Most Supportive Relationship Coach (Singapore Business Awards, APAC Insider, 2025), and the Icon of Change International Award (2025).
You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
