Martha Tara Lee

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Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee decided to take it upon herself to be an advocate for positive sexuality in 2007. She set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality, then launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she also has a masters in counseling and remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She has worked with a lot of couples (international and local) who have unconsummated marriage; men and women with sexual inhibitions and sexual desire discrepancies; men with erection and ejaculation concerns; as well as with GLBTQQ and kink folks. A born and bred Singaporean Chinese, Martha welcomes individuals as well as couples of all sexual orientations, and is available via Skype or face-to-face in Singapore. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.

Since 2011, Dr. Lee has been (and still is) the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Southeast Asia. Eros Coaching became an AASECT CE Provider in July 2017, and Dr. Lee also became an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor in July 2018. These accolades are only for those who meet the stringent requirements determined by AASECT, which is the leading professional organization for sexuality educators, sexuality counselors and sex therapists in the United States. In short, she strives to be the one of the best sexologists in the world.

She takes pride in making sure all her events are fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore (since 2009), and Men’s Health Malaysia (since 2010). She also contributes regularly towards Elephant Journal and YourTango. She was host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio between 2014 and 2017. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013),  Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015) and From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017).

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Latest Presentations

Dr. Martha Tara Lee has presented at numerous conferences and events in Brisbane, Perth, Sydney, Kuala Lumpur, Penang, and, of course, her hometown Singapore. For a full list, click here.

Benefits and Myths of Sex after 50 – a Sexual function assessment tool for clinicians and caregivers, Managing Elderly Care – the Asian Conference and Expo for Elderly Care, Makati City, Philippines 14 – 15 Mar 2019 (scheduled)
“Sex after 50 – the resurrection” at Malaysian Menopause Society’s annual event to commemorate World Menopause Day, Sunway Lagoon Resort Hotel, Bandar Sunway, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia 18 Nov 2018 (scheduled)
“Sex is not a mental illness” at Global Summit for Mental Health Advocates (Theme – Unite for Mental Health), Silver Ribbon Singapore, Singapore
8 Oct 2018
Panelist on Sex, Gender & Tech, SheSays Singapore, JustCo Robinson Road, Singapore 1 August 2018
“Sex at 50” (Symposium 5) and “Dealing with Female Sexuality” (Plenary 12) at Malaysian International Scientific Congress of Obstetrics and Gynaecology (MISCOG 2018), Obstetrical and Gynaecological Society of Malaysia (OGSM), Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia 26 – 29 July 2018
Speaker “Sexual Health and Counseling” at 2018 edition of the Certificate Course on Practical Andrology, The Society for Men’s Health Singapore, Academy for Men’s Health, The Malaysian Society of Andrology and The Study of the Aging Male (MSASAM), Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia 28 July 2018
Panelist H4ardness Matters alongside Urologist Dr George Lee and Comedian Dr. Jason Leong moderated by Bernice Chan. H4ardness Matters, Subang, Malaysia 21 July 2018
Sexual health and function for women with pelvic floor disorders at Urofair Nursing Symposium, Grand Hyatt Singapore 14 July 2018
Sexual Healing after Breast Cancer, Breast Cancer Foundation, Singapore 30 June 2018
Sex after Prostate Cancer Treatment, Tan Tock Seng, Singapore 11 June 2018
Sex after Prostate Cancer Treatment, Singapore Cancer Society, Singapore
13 Jan 2018
Three presentations at Male/ Female Sexual Dysfunctions Seminar, O&G Society of Malaysia, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
4 – 5 Nov 2017
2-hour Staff Workshop on Life, and Everything In-Between, L’Oréal Malaysia, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
2 Nov 2017
Panel, movie screening of Desert Flower, UN Woman Singapore and NUS, Singapore
13 Oct 2017
Teaching Faculty, Certificate Course in Andrology 2017, Society of Men’s Health Malaysia and Society of Men’s Health Singaore, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
 22 July 2017
Panel, The Age of the Sex Drought, BFM Health and Living 2017, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
8 April 2017
Panel, Physiological: Self-care by The Change School, Singapore
5 April 2017
Sexual Healing after Breast Cancer, Breast Cancer Foundation, Singapore
4 Mar 2017
Snuggle Party, The Art of Fellatio, Orgasmic Yoga and Dating Apps and Porno Panel (4 sessions), Sydney Really Good Sex Festival, Sydney
25 – 29 Jan 2017

For a full list of presentations, click here.

Academic Qualifications

Masters in Counseling, Monash University, Australia 2018
Doctorate in Human Sexuality, Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, USA 2009
Masters in Public Policy and Management, York University, United Kingdom 2007
Bachelor of Arts (Communications), Monash University, Australia 1999

Other Relevant Training

The Science of Happiness, University of California, Berkeley through edX
9 May 2018
Psychology of Popularity, The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, Coursera
15 Feb 2018
Prepare/ Enrich Facilitator, Eagles Mediation & Counselling Centre, Singapore
8 July 2017
Diversity & Inclusion in the Workplace, Coursera, Online
July 2017
Advanced Certificate in Training and Assessment (ACTA), Institute for Adult Learning, Singapore 22 Aug 2016
Working with Clients Who Grapple with Sexual Compulsivity, Promises Healthcare, Singapore 11 May 2015
Managing Sexuality Issues of Adults with Intellectual Disabilities, Social Service Training Institute, Singapore 7 – 8 April 2015
Relationship Coach for Couples, Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) 2015
Level 1 and 2 Teacher Training, The Art of Feminine Presence, Melbourne Dec 2014
Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator, Star of Ishtar (Online) June 2014
Certificate in Meditation and Holistic Human Development, Inner Voyage (Online) June 2013
Urban Tantra Professional Training, Barbara Carrellas Oct 2013
Professional Sex Coach, Sex Coach University and World Association of Sex Coaches (Online) 2012
Certified Laughter Yoga Leader, Laughter Yoga International, Singapore Mar 2012
Diploma for Master Hypnotist, Banyan Hypnosis Center, United States 2010
Certificate in Life Coaching, Life Coach Academy of Australia, Australia 2010
Certificate in Sex Therapy, Florida Sex Therapy Institute, Uniputed States 2009
Certificate in Sexological Bodywork, Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, United States 2008
Reiki Master (Level 3) 2008
Certificate in Practical Counseling, Academy of Human Development, Singapore 2006


From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (My Third Book)
Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (My Second Book)
Love, Sex and Everything In Between (My First Book)
Sex in Love (Essay) in The World Book of Love edited by Leo Bormans
The Ugly Duckling Who Became A Sexologist (Essay) in A Walk In My Shoes by Raymond Anthony Fernando
Essay in Her Story: SCWO’s 25th Anniversary — Celebrating Womanhood  edited by Tisa Ng 2005


Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Sexuality Educator Supervisor, and Continuing Education (CE) Provider, AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)

Certified Sexologist, ACS (American College of Sexologists)


Premium Member, Women Speakers Association


In 2011, 2012, 2013, 20142016, and 2017!

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